Monday, October 10, 2011

Thoughts on Perfection and the Fluffier Things in Life

I attended a Women of Faith event this weekend and have mixed feelings about it. I hadn't gone before because frankly, I turn into a hyperventilating mess in crowds and the average attendance of this event is 6,000 to 7,000! I'm getting agitated just typing that, but it wasn't that bad, I only had to breathe deeply and go to my inner happy place a few times!

It was a great time of fellowship with the ladies in my group, the van rides had to be my favorite part of the weekend! Plus, I got to see Mandeesa and Selah in concert, miss all of the drama I was really excited about (bitter much anyone?) listen to one AMAZING speaker, a few good (but super funny) ones, a couple meh ones and one that I would like to sit down and give a grand ol' talking too!

Most of what I heard wasn't new, maybe it was put in a slightly different way then I'd previously heard it and it is good to have a refresher course now and then, even a fluffy one like this weekend tended to be, I knew that it would be a marshmallow sort of weekend when I signed up though! =)

Okay, time for the not so great or fluffy parts. Problem one, most of the younger speakers were divorced and remarried. I believe while the Bible does give a few grounds on which divorce is okay, remarriage is NEVER okay and it saddened me that most of the speakers had done so! Not that that means they don't have good advice or wisdom, but it falls a little flat when I know that they've ignored a biblical command I think is glaringly obvious!

Problem two, not a serious one and mostly this one springs from my own neurotic nature, but the current trend of super tight pants and just above butt length shirts, viewed on the jumbo-tron, kind of made them all look like they were just wearing tights and had forgotten to put their skirts on.....awkward!

Problem three, one of the speakers talked about friendship. Not my favorite subject anyway, as I have a hard time making friends and have never had success with the advice given to me on making friends. But, one thing this women said made me see red and I'm still trying to clear my vision.

She had a hard time making friends and after a few failed attempts at making friends as an adult she went to a councilor and got told this.....if you see a women who has a great marriage, obedient kids, seems like a great person, basically someone who has it all together, run the other way as fast as you can! Because perfection isn't real and they will project their expectations onto you. Basically, they are the worst kind of friend!


Is she serious? Isn't that the kind of person you should try to be friends with? Who better to help you become a better wife then someone who has a good marriage? Who better to give you good advice on child rearing then someone who has kids people actually like? Who better to help you manage your time and help you learn to not be a mess, then someone who has obviously learned how to multitask without falling apart?

My family gets accused of being "perfect" a lot, so you can imagine how this made my Mother and I feel! Like there was a big neon STAY AWAY sign floating above out heads! Believe me, we so called "perfect" people struggle, we have fallen, we need connection and friends just as much as the next gal. We want to share our struggles and be transparent, we are NOT judging you and holding you up to our so called "standards of perfection".

So please, don't run the other way and avoid becoming friends with the people in your life who you think are perfect. Yes, we hold ourselves to high standards, but is that really such a bad thing? 

Ehem....rant over!

Will I go to Women of Faith again? Probably. Did the good out-weigh the bad? Yes, I think it did and even if I don't get much out of the speakers, the music was GREAT and the fellowship was priceless! =)

Now I will leave you with some more of the fluffier things in life! ;-)
Is it a bunny or a cat?

Love my fluffly pink socks!